"Tour over The Yoni"

 

    If you would like, you can now take the time to look at your yoni. For this, you will need a mirror. Ask your yoni how it would like to be touched. You can also celebrate the exploration of your yoni together with a partner, as long as you know each other well and trust one another. For this, find a safe, comfortable, and warm room, which you make appealing to yourself If you wish, you can talk to your partner about your internal dialogues when they take place, but the point is not to appraise, comment, or discuss your thoughts. Whether alone or with a partner, make the exploration of your yoni as joyful and lively as it is sensual and pleasurable.

     When you are looking at your yoni in a mirror from a standing or sitting position, you often see little more than a hairy triangle and perhaps further down the clitoris and the Venus lips, or inner labia. We use the term Venus lips instead of labia, since this area for us has nothing to do with shame. 

    According to Taoist teachings, our labia contain our fear of opening ourselves, and our desire to hide. Both feelings can be released through massage. Also according to these teachings, the clitoris stores nervousness, mistrust, impatience, and tension. Again, massaging the clitoris can resolve these blockages.

    To explore your yoni, sit down close to or on top of a mirror. You can use a regular handheld mirror for this or, better yet, a slightly larger mirror that leaves both your hands free so that you can explore your yoni with your fingers. If it is your partner's yoni that you wish to explore, ask her to allow you to look at her yoni.

    The Venus mound (mons veneris) is usually hairy and toward the bottom ends in the outer labia, which are also usually covered by hair. The inner and outer labia form a protective oval that envelops the inner, more sensitive part of the yoni. The oval formed by the outer labia begins with the band of the clitoris and ends with its lower tip in the dam that is called the perineum. The perineum is about one inch long and forms a bridge to the anus.

    A yoni is as unique as a face: in some women, the outer labia may cover both the clitoris and the inner labia, while in other women, the outer labia may be flat, leaving the clitoris and inner labia clearly exposed. Other women may have very long inner labia, while the clitoris is surrounded by the outer labia.

    If you gently pull apart the outer labia using the fingers of both hands, you will be able to more clearly see the clitoris pearl with its tentlike hood. The sides of this hood end in the two inner labia, either directly or with a seamlike connection. The inner labia also form an oval, from the hood of the clitoris to the yoni opening (vagina entrance). A little further up you can see the opening of the urethra. This opening, through which urine is excreted, is usually no larger than a pinhead and is easiest to find when you use one finger to gently pull the yoni opening downward, causing the upper area to tense slightly. In this way, the opening of the urethra, which is usually surrounded by folds of skin, becomes more easily visible. It ends in a short path that leads to the bladder.

    The yoni opening is surrounded by a jagged ring, the remains of the broken hymen. The hymen is a tissue layer that covers the yoni opening, either partially or entirely, until a woman has sexual intercourse or until the hymen is broken by other events, such as insertion of a tampon, masturbation, or sports.

    Next, we reach the inner area of the yoni. For this, it is best to use plenty of lubricant and to make sure that your hands are pleasantly warm. People often picture the vagina as a tube that is always open and ready for receiving the lingam. In reality, however, it is usually closed, with the lower and upper vaginal walls resting on top of each other. The yoni first has to be gently opened before it offers its full depth and breadth. Deep breathing, sighing, and moaning facilitate access to the temple of your yoni, or your partner's yoni.

    By slowly and carefully inserting one finger, you can explore the inner area of the yoni. It is best to approach this holy place with consideration and empathetic attention. The inner area of the yoni feels completely different in each woman. Usually it is warm, at some spots even hot, and has an uneven surface like a crater. The depth of the yoni can vary from two and a half to ten and a half inches, and the opening in a relaxed normal state can be between one and three inches wide.

    The upper area of the vagina is best felt by using your middle finger to slide into the yoni, with your palm facing up. This upper zone is connected directly with the very sensitive urethral sponge, which makes it receptive to sensation and therefore of great importance to sexuality.

    Among many women, the lower area of the vagina is far less sensitive. This does not mean it should be ignored, however; the area can store memories of deep psychological injuries, which may present themselves as hard areas, knots, or particularly hot spots. A woman may have difficulty reaching her own lower vaginal area, which is best reached by crouching, then sliding the thumb into the yoni and pressing it slightly downward. If you are exploring the lower vaginal wall of your partner, use your middle finger, with your palm facing down.

    If you now insert one-or even better two-fingers deep into the yoni, you can feel the cervix. You may find the cervix either right in the center or slightly above or below the center, as it can bend in different directions. The cervix is surrounded by very subtle spiritual energies, which can be activated through touch. If you no longer have a cervix, you can touch the scar tissue surrounding this area, which will also activate these subtle energies.