"Yoni Massage"

    Yoni is the Sanskrit word that’s used for vagina, and it translates into “sacred temple” or sacred space. Tantra teachings view yoni from a perspective of immense respected and love. Men, in particular, should learn about this. Before getting started with a yoni massage, it is really important to create an environment and space that would help the receiver, in this case, the woman, relax. She won’t be able to reach a heightened state of sexual arousal and experience pleasure unless and until she is truly relaxed.

    The giver will also experience the joy of giving his partner immense pleasure and also gets to witness it. The yoni massage is also used as a means of developing a bond that depends on trust and intimacy. It has also been used by massage therapists and, as well as sex therapists, as a means through which they can assist women who have endured sexual trauma or suffer from any sexual blocks. The aim of a yoni massage isn’t just to achieve an orgasm. In fact, an orgasm just happens to be an excellent and welcome side effect of yoni massage. The giver and the receiver of the massage can relax and neither of them has got to worry about achieving an orgasm. For this reason, the orgasm tends to be powerful and intense when it ultimately occurs. If the giver also doesn’t expect anything in return, the receiver can fully enjoy the massage.

    The receiver has got to lie on her back, and her head can be propped up with the help of pillows so that she has got a view of her genitals and her partner as well. Take a pillow and cover it with a towel, then place this pillow under her hips. Her legs need to be slightly spread apart so that her knees are slightly bent and genitals should be exposed. This position would give the giver an unrestricted access to his lover’s Yoni and other parts of her body as well. Taking deep breaths will help in calming the giver as well as the receiver. Do remember to keep breathing deeply to make sure that you and your partner are both relaxed throughout this process. The giver will then have to gently remind the receiver to start breathing slowly and deeply and if the receiver starts taking shallow breaths, he can gently remind her again. Deep breathing will help in staying calm and it will also prevent hyperventilation.

    Start by gently massaging your partner’s legs, thighs, abdomen, breasts and other erogenous zones. Encourage her to relax, and this will allow you to prepare for the massage. Take the massage oil or the lubricant of your choice in your hand and then pour it over her yoni. Pour a little oil so that it drips down over the outer lips of her vagina and covers it. Start by gently massaging her mound and the outer lips as well. Don’t rush your moves and take some time. You will need to let her relax and give into the massage. Squeeze the outer lip between your thumb and index finger, but do so gently. Then you will have to glide your finger up the length of her yoni. Repeat the same to the inner lips of her vagina. Don’t be in a hurry and take your time doing this. It would be helpful if the receiver and the giver can maintain eye contact during the massage for as long as possible. The receiver should give her input regarding the pressure, the strokes, speed, depth, etc. or the need to be decreased or increased. Don’t engage in any casual conversations and make sure that you are limiting this and should instead concentrate on the buildup of pleasurable sensations; too much talking might kill the mood.

    The clitoris is the crown jewel, and it shouldn’t be neglected. The clitoris is similar to the male glans, but it is four times more sensitive than the glans. It has around 6000 to 8000 nerve endings, so it obviously is extremely sensitive. This hypersensitive nodule has got only one purpose, and it is pleasure. It can receive and transmit pleasure like no other part of the body. Start stroking the clit in a clockwise direction with circles and then do the same in a counterclockwise motion. Gently squeeze this little nub between your index finger and your thumb. This is a part of the massage and it isn’t done with the intention of getting the receiver off. Well, the receiver will undoubtedly be incredibly aroused by this action, but keep encouraging her to relax and take deep breaths.

    Slowly and gently, the giver has got to insert his middle finger of his right hand into the vagina. There’s a reason why the right hand has got to be used. It is associated with polarity in Tantra. Start gently exploring and massaging the insides of her vagina. Take your time and be gentle with your movements. Vary the pressure, speed, depth and the direction. This massage helps in nurturing as well as relaxing her yoni. The middle finger of the giver would be inserted in the receiver’s yoni, with the palm facing upwards, the giver has got to crook his middle finger in a “come here” gesture and keep massaging her yoni. The giver’s finger would come in contact with the spongy tissue that is present in the pubic bone, just behind the clit. This is referred to as the G-spot or the Sacred Spot. She will experience immense pleasure if this particular spot is massaged properly. Vary the pressure and the pattern of movement to elicit a different reaction from her. After a while, the giver can also insert another finger. Most women wouldn’t have any problem with two fingers being inserted into their yoni because it merely provides them more stimulation. For additional stimulation, the giver can gently insert a finger into her anus and rub her anus with his right pinky finger. If you feel that your partner might have any objections about this, then don’t do this without her prior consent.

    Make use of your left hand for massaging her breasts, abdomen and clitoris. If you are massaging her clitoris, then it is best advised that you make use of your thumb and move it around in an up and down motion, while the rest of your hand is lying on her mound. The dual stimulation that is provided by both your hands will provide incredible pleasure to the receiver. Keep on massaging, and you can vary the speed and pressure of the strokes. Don’t forget to maintain eye contact through this all. Make sure that you are breathing deeply and be gentle with her. Some women tend to have had negative sexual experiences, and they need to be healed. A gentle and loving massage is the best way in which you can make her feel loved and cherished. Continue with the massage even if she has an orgasm and don’t stop. Multiple orgasms might also occur depending upon the intensity of the massage. Towards the end, start massaging her slowly and gently. Let your lover relax and bask in the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or even holding her body will help in soothing her. As you learn to master this particular technique of massaging, it will help in enriching your sex life.