"Steps For Lingam massage"

    The first method is for men who would want to make use of this sacred method for cultivating and harnessing the divine energy through masturbation. The same approach can also be made use of by the giver of the massage as well. 

Relaxing 

    The first step is to get your partner to lie on his back on a stable surface. It could be the bed or even a massaging table. Prop a pillow under his head and a pillow can also be propped under his hips. He needs to lie down in such a manner that his legs are slightly spread apart, and his knees are bent so that it gives the massage giver an unobstructed and unrestricted view of the male genitalia. Keep reminding your partner to breathe deeply because this will help in relaxing further.

Breathe deeply 

    Breathing is one aspect that distinguishes the practice of Tantra from regular sex. While the giver is trying to perform a lingam massage, it is really important that the receiver is breathing deeply. For increasing his pleasure, as well as his state of arousal, it is crucial that both the partners are breathing deeply and slowly. When the giver inhales, she will be receiving all of his sexual energy and arousals and loving energy is transferred to him when she exhales. This simple breathing technique has three benefits. It will help in reaching a deeper level of meditation and mindfulness. It will make the giver more empathetic towards the thoughts and feelings of the receiver. Lastly, it will help in improving the sexual intuition of the massage giver and make her more aware of what her partner wants. 

Your partner should breathe deeply 

    Before starting the lingam massage, the giver has to tune into her partner by following the breathing technique that was explained in the previous step. Just by taking a few deep breaths in a synchronized manner this will help in putting you both at ease and will help you relax. While the giver is performing the massage, she can keep constantly reminding him to relax fully.

Lubricating his penis 

    You can make use of your favorite massaging oil. Refer to the earlier blogs for helping you choose the perfect massaging oil. Make use of this oil for lubricating his shaft and his testicles as well. Start the massage by simply sliding your hands up and then down his thighs before moving onto the good stuff. This will make your partner relax, and you can also keep complimenting him about you are seeing and what you appreciate. After massaging his thighs for a few minutes, move onto his testicles and massage them gently. You can make use of your fingernails for slightly grazing his sack or your fingers for slightly tugging them. Alternatively, you can cup these in your hands and fondle them gently. You can massage the area around and between the testicles. This is the perineum, the area that lies between the testicles and the anus. While handling his testicles, be careful. Men tend to react differently, and some might be more sensitive or even ticklish than others. So, ask him about how he likes it while massaging or fondling his testicles. 

Massaging the shaft 

    Once you have gently massaged the area around the receiver’s penis and you can see that he wants more, that’s when you have to shift your attention towards the shaft of his penis. Change your grip from hard to light and vice versa. Keep varying the sequence in which you are stroking him from up and down, and then a twisting motion. Shift your hands and when you are using one hand, vary the speed. Shift from left to right and then from right to left hand. Keep varying the speed of the strokes from slow to fast. Initially, you can make use of slow strokes for building up the rhythm and then move quickly. Keep alternating the speed, rhythm; the pressure applied, and the technique used. Shift the shaft strokes as well. You can start from the root either to the top or from the head to the base. Once you have reached the head of the penis, move your hand towards the base and while reaching the base make a twisting motion. Variety is the key, so keep making variations. 

    When you are making use of two hands, then you can massage his shaft in a few different ways. Both hands can hold the penis in the same direction, and the fingers should be pointing in the same direction. One hand can hold the penis facing in one direction, and the other can hold the penis facing the other way. Both the hands can move in an up and down motion. Make use of massage oil to lubricate his penis well. One hand can move from the head to the base while the other hand is making a twisting motion at the very tip of the penis.

Keep him on edge 

    You would have noticed that by now he would be worked up and might be eager for the sweet release. If you have been paying close attention to the way his body moves, his breathing and the sounds he is making, you will be able to predict whether or not he’s nearing his climax. When you notice that he is at the very edge, that’s when you will need to slow down or stop what you are doing and gently remind him to keep breathing deeply and let him ride the wave of pleasurable feelings that he might be experiencing. His penis might go from being fully erect to being semi-hard. Don’t worry; this is natural. 

Start stimulating his Sacred Spot 

    The prostate is a man’s Sacred Spot. This is a small gland that is located between the bladder and his penis. When this walnut-sized gland is stimulated properly, it is quite pleasurable. Internal access can also be gained to the prostate, and it can be done by inserting a finger into his anus or even with the help of a sex toy that’s used for massaging the prostate. If your partner isn’t familiar with a prostate massage, then start externally. You can find the sacred spot by looking for a slight indentation that would be present somewhere between the testicles and the anus. It would be about the size of a pea or a walnut. Gently push this inward and go slow while doing this. Once you have successfully found the spot, you can start massaging it slowly with your fingers and knuckles. Make use of a circular motion and use a lot of massaging oil while doing so. If you can get your partner to shave, it would be relatively easy to find this spot.

Stimulating the prostate internally 

    If your partner is willing or is curious to try a prostate massage, then you can turn up the heat with a prostate massage. If he is up for it, then you will want to start out by loosening up his anus to allow entry to your fingers. Start out by gently massaging the outside of his anus in a circular motion. Insert a finger slowly only if he is ready for it. Do make sure that his anus is well oiled before you try inserting your finger. Also, make sure that your nails aren’t sharp or long as this might hurt him. Start out with just the tip of one finger if he seems to be enjoying it and then move it along slowly. The prostate is about two or three inches inside the anus, so you will need to probe a little deeper. Start caressing the prostate by moving your finger(s) in a come hither motion. Prostate massage will be pleasurable for your partner, but he needs to be willing to go along with it. 

End the massage 

    For ending the massaging, you can let your partner ejaculate, or you can also transition onto sex. It all depends on what you and your partner feel like doing at that given point of time.