"Massage Preliminaries"

    

   

    Let's discuss all that you need to know about giving and receiving a tantric massage. The different ways in which you can help your partner has been discussed in detail. A typical arrangement would be for one partner to receive the massage and then return the favor, but you get to decide how you want to go about this.

    For a tantric massage, it is best advised that your partner is lying on a mattress or a comfortable flat surface or table. After you have prepped the space to be both pleasing and sensual, the next thing left to do is start off with sensual touches and a general relaxing massage before concentrating on your partner’s erogenous zones. The idea behind this is quite simple; it is about bringing your partner to a highly aroused state and then letting them stay in that state for a while.

    For men, this can be done through either verbal or nonverbal communication that would allow their level of arousal to be slowed down, changed or even stopped before their climax becomes inevitable. For women, this can be done by massaging their G-Spot or even with clitoral stimulation coupled with a breast massage. This can bring her to experience multiple orgasms. The main aim of the massage is to stimulate and arouse your partner sexually. Remember, an orgasm is just a bonus for them. You will learn about stimulating your partner and also the basics of how you can go about the tantric massage.

    You will need to take some time out and create an environment that is appealing as well as sensual. The importance of having the right ambiance cannot be stressed enough. It is critical to show to your partner that you care about them and want to pleasure them. You can start out by just turning off the phones, and you can also place a Do Not Disturb sign on the door. Illuminate the room with soft lighting given off by candles and or small lamps, burn some fragrant candles or even experiment a little until you find something that you both like. 

    The massage giver should make sure some incense is lit so that the aroma fills the air. Turn up the heat because you will both be naked and it shouldn’t be uncomfortable. Keep the gloves, lubricants and oils within reach and then cover the massage table or surface with a blanket and then drape a sheet over the table that can be made use of for covering your partner. You can make use of additional pieces like faux fur of feathers for making it more sensual. Play some relaxing music. 

    Some people might be comfortable with a pillow or rolled towel when it’s placed under their knees, head and ankles. Women might be more comfortable with a pillow placed under their hips. If this is the first time you are trying out tantric massage with your partner, and then feel free to check that their fingernails are clipped neatly, and it wouldn’t hurt their partner. 

    There’s one similarity between both men and women and it’s that they both require some form of lubricant when their genitals are being massaged. The use of a lubricant will make the experience more pleasurable, and it will also prevent irritation of the skin. There’s one difference, though. You can make use of oil based and even water based lubricants on men, but you should only make use of waterbased lubricants for women. Instead of searching for any specific lubricants, you can simply make use of the massage oils that you have read about in the previous articles. 

    Either you can make your own massage oils, or you can even purchase them. Depending upon your choice of fragrance, you can select a particular one. You should always keep the massage oil nearby. Always take some oil in your hands before applying it on your partner’s body. Take some oil ad gently rub it between your palms to slightly warm it up. 

    Throughout the duration of the massage, including the relaxation phase and the genital massage phase, it is crucial that the receiver feels comfortable while making comments and requests regarding the massage. The receiver is supposed to be able to express to the giver anything that might be getting in the way of his or her pleasure. Requests for the touch to be harder or lighter, asking for a break and so on can be incorporated only when the person is comfortable with communicating the same with the giver. These comments and requests are also signs that the receiver is finally paying attention to his or her emotions, feelings and pleasure. 

    Some people believe that sex or any sexual act can bring up a lot of buried emotions or issues. When someone starts crying or seems to be in an emotionally distressed state, then make sure that you are there for him/her. Ask them what they need instead of simply assuming what they might need. It goes without saying that both the receiver and the giver need to be fine with going ahead with tantric massage. 

    Both the partners need to be aware that this relaxation massage can lead to sexual encounters due to its erotic nature. It is best that the partners communicate about their expectations from the massage to avoid any embarrassing encounters. A situation could come up where one partner is trying to shift the massage towards a more erotic side while the other is enjoying the relaxation massage without the need to include any sexual activity. Therefore, to avoid such uncomfortable situations it would be better to discuss this topic beforehand. It is better to go into the massage without any unnecessary expectations.

    The first thing that you have got to do is relax your partner’s body. There may be certain specific ways in which you and your partner are used to connecting. If you don't know how to go about it, you can establish a connection with your partner by gazing into his or her eyes, by sharing loving endearments, gentle caressing or even by synchronizing your breathing. 

    When you both feel that you are ready, then you will need to get your partner to lie down on the managing table or the chosen surface. Start out by focusing your concentration and resting your hands on your lover's upper and then lower back. Then perform a soothing massage on their back, move towards their legs and even feet. The basic principles of this are that your hands should be in constant contact with your partner’s body and you should move your hands in a steady rhythmic movement. 

    While giving a massage make sure that you are using good techniques and are making use of body mechanics like making use of your body weight for giving deeper strokes and gliding smoothly, don't lean too much over the managing table and keep your knees slightly bent for supporting your weight. Once you have got your partner to relax, then you can have him or her turn over so that they are facing you. Start out by massaging their chest, arms, abdomen, hands and neck and so on. Every part of their body needs to be massaged. 

    When you are moving towards giving your partner a genital massage, it is important to make sure that you are gazing into his/her eyes, as if seeking permission to go ahead. If your partner has any apprehensions, then make sure that you have discussed and addressed those apprehensions. The aim of a tantric massage is for a person to let go and enjoy the pleasure that their body is capable of giving them. With practice, you will be able to use the levels of arousal and excitement of your partner and can change or modify your massaging strokes accordingly. Tantric massage can be an amazing experience and it will help in developing an intimate bond with your partner that goes beyond the physical realm.