"Sex Centers"

Male sex centers

    One of the basic principles of a male genital massage is that you will need to change, slow down or stop what you are doing before he reaches the point of no return. The receiver has got to signal his impeding orgasm. Verbal cues and gestures can be made use of for signaling the same. This process of repeated peaking can at times help men have multiple orgasms without actually ejaculating. Repeated peaking helps in delaying the orgasm and when it does come that orgasm would be like no other. The main objective of this massage is to provide maximum pleasure. Ejaculation does provide pleasure, but it usually leaves men feeling tired and fatigued. If you and your partner have decided to massage each other alternatively, then it would be advisable to massage the woman first. 

    Encouraging your partner with some dirty talk is exciting. However, make sure that there isn’t too much of talk involved. Alternatively, make it a point that only the massage giver gets to talk. Letting your partner know either through verbal or nonverbal cues that you are excited by their pleasure is quite a turn on. It isn’t necessary that the man needs to have an erection throughout the duration of the massage. In fact, some massage strokes feel better when the penis is soft. Therefore, men, you needn’t worry about whether or not your penis is erect. Just lie down and enjoy the excellent massage.

Genital massage strokes: 

    Different massage strokes can be made use of that would provide immense pleasure. Unless your partner has expressly mentioned it, it is a safe bet to assume that firm and consistent stroking would feel good for him. In this section, you will learn more about the different strokes that you can make use of during the tantric genital massage.

Healing stroke 

    This is when the man’s penis is resting on his belly. The giver has got to cup his testicles in one hand. The heel of the palm of her other hand should glide up and down the underside of his penis, from the base to the tip of the penis. 

Anvil stroke 

    With one hand, the giver has got to stroke the penis from the tip to the base. When the giver’s hand reaches the bottom, she’s got to release the grip on the penis. In the meantime, her other hand should continue to repeat the same stroke from the top of the penis. This will help in creating a repetitive and alternating motion that would be quite erotic.

Climbing the mountain 

    The giver has got to take the receiver’s penis in one hand, and gently and sensuously caress the base of his penis for about ten seconds and then give a quick up and down stroke once. She has got to repeat this sensuous stroke a few times and keep caressing. After caressing for a while, she can gradually increase the strokes. Caress for ten seconds and give two quick up and down strokes, then later on caress for a few seconds and give three quick up and down strokes and so on. Keep on doing this until the receiver can ejaculate. The giver and the receiver get to decide how they would like to end the massage. If you choose that you want to finish the massage with him ejaculating, then keep on massaging till he ejaculates and continue to do so even after his orgasm or until your lover ask you to stop. Once you are done with the massage, simply lie next to your partner and enjoy his contentment along with him.

Female sex centers 

    Female response to sexual acts is different from the sexual response of men. It is distinct in the following ways. Female sexual arousal is closely linked to the emotional state, and the feelings of warmth and compassion expressed towards her partner. Women can achieve their climax in two different ways. One is through the stimulation of the G-Spot, and another is through the stimulation of the clitoris. Women tend to think of the G-Spot orgasms as deeper and the clitoral orgasms as distinctly sharper. 

    The preference of sexual stimulation varies considerably from one woman to another. Female arousal does take longer to build, but it does last longer and is usually more intense when compared to the climax that men usually experience. Women are also capable of having multiple orgasms if the stimulation continues through and after the first orgasm. The previous point mentioned is the reason why there's a difference between the tantric massage techniques used for men and women. Since women are capable of enjoying multiple orgasms, it does help to keep the massage going on through one peak and then to another.

Types of stimulation 

    The preferences of women regarding clitoral and G-Spot stimulation are quite varied, so being attentive and listening to her input would help. Usually, women prefer having their entire vulva stimulated by rubbing it gently, followed up with clitoral stimulation and finally having their G-Spot stimulated. Neither clitoral nor vaginal stimulation tends to feel good unless the woman happens to be in a high state of arousal. During a genital massage, the giver might have one hand free, which he can make use of for teasing her and gliding it all over her body. Play with her nipples, massage her perineum or simply caress her body while you continue to pleasure her. 

Clitoral 

    When massaging a woman’s clitoris, it is important to understand what she likes the best. Start out by gently massaging the clit in circles around and make sure that your finger is well lubricated while doing so. Proceed to do so until you get instructions that are more specific or till you find something that she enjoys. Vary your technique slowly and make sure that you have established a rhythm for your movements. Some women tend to feel clitoral orgasms are better when their vagina is being stimulated simultaneously. This can be done by inserting a finger(s) into her vagina and massaging the vaginal canal while gently rubbing her clitoris. Before inserting your finger into her vagina, make sure that she is well lubricated and aroused. Clitoral stimulation is an important part of tantric massage.

G-Spot 

    The G-Spot is the area that’s present near the front wall of a woman’s vagina; it is right behind the pubic area, about two inches inside the vagina. When you feel a slight ridge inside the vagina, you have found the G-Spot. Pressing and massaging the G-Spot can be extremely pleasurable. This can also lead to female ejaculation if the G-Spot has been properly stimulated. Female ejaculation isn’t urine. It is just liquid expelled through the urethra. One easy way for stimulating the G-Spot is by inserting a well-lubricated finger into the vagina and rubbing it by gently curling your fingers upwards. The pads of your fingers would be rubbing against her G-Spot. The second approach is to rotate your fingers inside her vaginal passage to apply even pressure against all the areas. 

Verbal and nonverbal encouragement 

    It is quite helpful to include some verbal as well as nonverbal encouragement while massaging your partner. A few hot words can make all the difference. Tell the receiver something sexy about their body. Perhaps you can tell the receiver that you enjoy seeing them in a vulnerable position that you like the way their body reacts to yours. Whispering simple endearments into her ear during the massage would make the experience more erotic for your partner. Most women face sexual difficulties that stem from an internal worry that perhaps her partner is getting tired of pleasuring them, or the pressure of having an orgasm. This does make it quite a stressful experience for women, so a few simple things that would let your receiving partner know that you are enjoying the pleasure that she’s experiencing can be quite a turn-on for her. 

    You and your partner can decide the manner in which you would want to end the massage. It doesn’t always have to lead to intercourse. Instead, the two of you can simply cuddle and rest for a while. This is up to you.